Kink is the practically the new vanilla: requests for light bondage, spanking, and even anal sex are usually no longer met with looks of disgust followed by slammed doors followed by nasty breakups. We’re all getting freaky in private but most of us would never even consider being public about it.
If you’re full-on into a specific fetish, FetLife is without a doubt the place for you. If you’re 100% vanilla, Match.com should do you fine. But what if you’re not a total kinkster but you’re not totally vanilla? What if you’re like…
Cookies and Cream?
Up until now, most cookies and cream people have had to settle with using code words in mainstream dating sites, saying stuff like they’re “adventurous” and “up for anything.” Those folks may want to drop all the pretext, however, and head on over to Nauti Ninja, which calls itself, “a new sex-positive social network and dating site.”
Nauti Ninja is looking to meld the two dominant and opposing models of online dating sites – long term relationship forming and quick sexual gratification – into a new kind of site for a community of people who don’t see the need to be in the closet about their sexual desires.
“We are crossing the boundary between what is considered normal sexual activity with the growing interest in expressing ourselves as sexual creatures, not just in pop culture and media, in our relationships, lifestyles, interaction and how we relate to each other,” said Cory Irish, CEO of NautiNinja.com.
Other than handcuffs and leather, what will you find?
If you’re looking to connect with someone in particular, take a little spin around the profiles. The site lets you search for other sex positive individuals and couples based on location, age, and relationship status. But if you’re just looking for someone who has the same kink as you, Nauti Ninja allows you to search for that as well.
Once you find someone (or someones) you’re interested in, Nauti Ninja gives you the option of instant messaging or forming a group of people with similar interests
My Facebook events tend to be a bunch of random crap from college acquaintances who are inviting me to see their band play in a city on the other side of the country. (To be honest, I barely even check my events on FB anymore.) Nauti Ninja, on the other hand, posts events that have to do with adult get-togethers with a decidedly steamier side.
A good start.
As someone who looks at and reviews at least one dating or sex site a week, I think I’d be remiss if I didn’t point out that the site is very new and even with 700 users already signed on, it’s still showing its growing pains. The copy is rough and the design could use some tweaking, but they’re clearly committed to providing a service that I think is much needed and that could prove to be very popular.